Lately, I’ve met a lot new and interesting people and as with how everyone behaves around strangers, I’m not always entirely myself. Frankly, sometimes I feel like my persona is a little forced, since upon meeting new people, one doesn’t want to offend them or be judged. Only after a little time do you begin to open up more toward those individuals that you get along with best. It’s not always easy to tell who are your true friends and who is just friending you for convenience and I think sometimes we often take those who /are/ our true friends for granted.
This brings me to the question of how friends, family and lovers shape who we are and the degree to which we should acknowledge them for it. Our identities are comprised of two components: how people view themselves and how others view them. However, the question arises whether both of these or neither of them are consistent in representing who we actually are. Is the persona that we often assume around others, the person we truly are inside? Is it possible to have someone understand us better than ourselves? What do you think?
The story below is called “Worth”. The protagonist struggles through an inner conflict as she tries to determine her place in this world.
Edit: Gauging by my work load and the fact that I figured out how to schedule posts on WordPress, I think it’s feasible to do weekly posts at 8:00 p.m. ET every Friday, instead of biweekly posts.
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You can be whoever you want to be. My mother’s voice echoed in my mind as I rested in arm chair in front of our fireplace. I fidgeted as I tried to position myself more comfortably. Sighing, I untangled my hair from the ridges of the worn out leather. I was becoming too big for this chair.
Mother and daughter we had shared this spot and mother and daughter we would share it again, only my mother was no longer with me. The fire blazed gently and I imagined myself being enveloped in her warmth, but I shivered, for, inside I felt cold. The embers which I had once imagined were tiny dancing faeries amongst the forest of flames now seemed like piercing glares from deep within the depths of hell.
Judging eyes and hurtful speech, the world I was surrounded by had made me lose faith in my mother’s words. Could there ever be a connection between two people as affectionate as that between those who are akin? A parent, a friend, a lover are all supposed to be equal in our hearts but friends and lovers have no obligation to you since they’re separate, unique entities.
Friends and lovers are funny.
Or, at least, my friends and lover were. And not funny in that comedic kind of way.
When I was younger, I was told I was beautiful and smart, so naturally, people flocked to my side. My life was the image of perfection. But, beneath the shiny surface was a superficial world with people who never really knew me for who I was. Every time I expressed these feelings, my mother would laugh and tell me, “Stop worrying needlessly, you should be as you are with me, when you’re with true friends and a lover. Just be whoever you want to be”.
To which I would smile at and hug her tighter. Even though I knew I could never feel as comfortable with anyone as I did with her, the soft tone of her words made me feel better.
That’s why, when my mother died, I lost it.
I succumbed to the pressures of society. No one could keep me sane. My life tumbled before me and as I showed my inner distress, my ‘friends’ and ‘lover’ also revealed their true colours. In the end, it would seem that they have won. I ran away, with nowhere to go and no one to go to.
But, alas, I was not alone. Inside of me, another life was growing, and I wasn’t sure I wanted to expose it to this cruel world…
Nonetheless, here I am, mother and daughter, once again.
And I want her to come save me, but pretty soon, I realize, I must be the saviour.